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How to disagree well

On Sunday, 19 February, we will be thinking about Jesus’ difficult teaching on loving our enemies (Matthew 5.43-48).

Disagreeing well is getting harder in the age of social media. Here are some helpful principles:

  • Talk face to face as full human beings whenever possible. Try to build a relationship
  • Acknowledge differences. Stand up for what you believe but treat the other person’s view with respect.
  • You may win an argument but lose a friend! Be willing to say, “I don’t know the answer.” Our confidence is in the love of Jesus, not our perfect arguments.
  • Learn to listen well. Make sure you understand the other person’s viewpoint.
  • Jesus didn’t say “Go and sock it to them!” but “Love your enemies”. Remember that God loves this person and that Jesus died for them.

Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect. 1 Peter 3:15

This post is based on a conversation between Justin Brierley and Cris Rogers. You can watch it here:


Audio Service for 30 August: Reset your online life

The reading in included in the service.

Reader: John Way

Preacher: Christoph Lindner